If but every thought be left unspoken
Any advise for university? I'm starting next year and I'm really nervous (especially to do with finances). I am finished school and working for this year before I start. From Australia btw :) thanks xo you're so lovely!

Awww, shucks. Well, I only know about American financial aid. Here we have what is called a FAFSA where we fill out a sort of financial aid application and turn that in and based off of the score that gives us we receive however many allowances for financial aid. 

So since it’s a year away that’s what I would be looking at right now. Look at what your options are. My personal suggestion: avoid loans if at all possible. I managed to avoid loans until graduate school and it made me so angry that I had to take them at all because up until that point I was able to attend college debt-free. Apply to everything as early as possible, keep an eye on your deadlines because I was such a procrastinator that I’d wait to the last minute and often miss opportunities for scholarships. Don’t do that. You’re already thinking about it and that is awesome. Seriously, pat yourself on the back for that. Look at the university you want to attend, usually they will have a website and a financial aid office so look at what they can offer you. Don’t slack off on your grades this last year (I know it’s tempting). I worked through college at Starbucks (I suppose they have those there, of course they do) because they had great benefits and worked with my school schedule. However, work in moderation because if you work too much and keep on top of your studies you will burn the candles at both ends and fizzle out and hate school.

As far as other advice. I am not going to say “Don’t be nervous!” that’s impractical. Being nervous is good. Being nervous is healthy. I will say to not party as much as you want to (though a little bit is good). Always take time for yourself. I guess my biggest piece of advice can be summed up in one word: moderation. Keep balance in your life, take time for studies, friends, family, and yourself. Stay on top of your school work and don’t procrastinate. Procrastinating will make you perpetually behind and you don’t want that. You will do awesome and if you ever have more questions etc. I will be here. (For whatever that’s worth.) So best of luck darling and thanks for the question.

Jared Leto in Urban Legends

How would (or did) you respond if a student asked to follow your blog?

I honestly don’t care. My blog is pretty much void of NSFW material and my students already know how much of a weirdo/ nerd I am so nothing on there would surprise them remotely. I made this rule: you can follow me on any variety of social media you wish once I am no longer your teacher. That way no questions can be raised about the appropriateness of a student/ teacher conversations. My students adhered to that. On the last day of school I would add them of fb, Snapchat etc. I would not add/ accept until then. 

I know the recent declaration I responded to is not one of my students. I have certain ways around the “anonymous” bit, but I don’t feel like employing it just to find out if they are my student. They didn’t write my name or even my initial and there are lingual idiosyncrasies that are absent if they actually were my student. I could be wrong and they could be a former student. If they are, cool. If they’re trying to get a reaction, cool. I don’t care. Knock yourself out. I’ve an awesome blog and I wouldn’t blame them if they wanted to follow me. I would if I had a lick of sense. So I guess that’s the crux of it: I don’t really care. Is that weird? It might be weird.

Thanks so much for the message my dear. I love answering them.

Do you believe in assigning summer homework?
Anonymous

I don’t think many students realize how much of what teachers do/ assign is out of their hands. If there is a summer assignment, it is not usually by the choice of the teacher, but the choice of Common Core and the administrators as well as the department enforcing the curriculum.

 I do know this: so much learning is lost over the course of the summer. When your mind is not constantly stimulated ( and in this specific argument video games do not count, but they are useful for other things, but that’s another post) then students (adults too) suffer a sort of mental atrophied where you forget what you took all year to learn. It’s why you can remember grammar rules and chemical compounds before summer starts and then the first month of school is all review of things you’ve supposedly already learned, but you can’t remember any of it.

I do know this: reading helps curb that summer learning/ reading loss. However, my personal view is that it’s important that students be allowed to choose their own reading material rather than simply the books that teachers assign. However, the book also has to be challenging, but so not difficult it can’t be understood. (An 8th grader with a grade level reading ability shouldn’t reading “Diary of a Wimpy Kid” and believe it to be at their level. Not everyone is at the same reading level and that’s why the choices should be guided.) I know getting summer assignments suck. I do. I always waited to read the book until a few days before school started and wrote the paper the night before the first day of school. I know it sucks, but there’s a reason behind why students have required reading and “homework” over the holidays and it isn’t because teachers hate you. It’s because they want to try and help give you the best fighting chance they can as you begin walking through those hallways in the Fall. I know they suck, but it’s an effort to help you and not to take away your vacation time.

Thank you for the question and I hope I answered well. Let me know if you have further questions. I love answering messages. 

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Anonymous

3?

Oh, this has to correspond to one of the ask things. If it is the fanfiction you have to put the pair you want it written about as well.

If it’s the personal ones, please tell me which one it is. 

I totally just watched the episode of Criminal Minds where the girl had a fire setting obsession tied to that number…so if that’s what you’re trying to do I don’t have manifestations like that. So let me know which one or the pair and I will be delighted to answer.

Having sex with a teacher is like my number one on my bucket list
Anonymous

What is with that fantasy? I mean, don’t get me wrong there have been professors that have been so freaking attractive. However, I wouldn’t touch that business with a ten foot stick. It’s SO not worth it. Don’t get me into the schism between a male teacher and a female teacher and their treatment in terms of sexual relationships with a student.

I suppose I understand it in a way, particularly from the male point of view. Taking someone in a position of authority and inverting that power…or not if that’s your thing. I am going to assume you identify as male. I think a big part of this has to do with porn. Actually I know it does, but that’s a different discussion entirely.

So my suggestion? Wait until you’re 18 AND wait until they aren’t your teacher anymore and even then understand that there may not be chemistry whatsoever and even if there is most teachers are not willing to risk the scandal. Otherwise it’s just a fantasy. Fantasies, while healthy in moderation, can be super dangerous.

Unless…is this a way of flirting with me? (*turns bright red*) Oh…um…that’s weird. I never know how to react to this stuff in real life either.

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Enjoy!
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ACID RAIN: any form of precipitation with high levels of nitric and sulfuric acids.They can make water toxic to the fishes inhabiting rivers, lakes & streams. It also damages forests by robbing the soil of essential nutrients and releasing aluminum into the soil. The aluminum makes it harder for the trees to take up water. More Information
ALL ABOUT DEATH: Have you ever wondered what happens to the human body at the moment of death and when happens to it as time passes by? Well I made this post, a while ago that will answer all your questions. About Death Post
BRAIN INJURY: The saddest part about this is when you have a patient whose aware but can’t communicate it at all. Or when you have patient in vegetative state, where they will smile, cry or frown but it turns out it was just an involuntary spinal cord effect. They are not really there. Brain Injury Post
SLEEP PARALYSIS: Waking up but you can’ move your body at all. You think you see something hovering above you. Or there’s an old women with lifeless eyes at the foot of your bed. But you can’t move your body at all. A bit more terrifying than morbid but here is where you can read a scientific explanation for it. Science Explanation
GENIE: THE WILD CHILD: Genie was a feral child, a child of abuse who was deprived of human communication. As horrible as it was, it led scientists to develop a theory about the critical period for language acquisition. It’s a hypothesis that states that the first few years of life is when a person will readily learn communication & language. More Information
LA BREA TAR PITS: The pits in the tar is called asphalt. It’s incredibly sticky and results when lighter components of petroleum evaporate away. It has the power to trap large animals. What happens is prey, weakened or injured animals would get stuck in the pit. Bigger animals, such as predators would be drawn to the scene where they would stuck as well. More Information
DEATH AT MOUNT EVEREST: Over 200 people have died on their attempt to reach the top. They could suffer from lack of oxygen or even me smashed by raining boulders. The morbid part? The bodies are now used as landmarks. More Information
ELEPHANT’S FOOT: Elephant’s foot is a massive radioactive blob. One of the remainders of the Chernobyl disaster. After just 30 seconds of exposure, dizziness and fatigue will find you a week later. Two minutes of exposure and your cells will begin to hemorrhage (ruptured blood vessels); four minutes: vomiting, diarrhea, and fever. 300 seconds and you have two days to live. More Information
MUMMIFICATION: Have you ever wondered how Ancient Egyptians mummified a body? It includes two steps: embalming & wrapping. Here is a website that will take you through the steps. And yes! They did use a hook to smash the brain and pull it out of the nose. The Website
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sixpenceee:

Enjoy!

  1. SPONTANEOUS HUMAN COMBUSTION: Can someone really burst up into flames out of nowhere? There have been cases. Usually the victim’s torso and head are burnt beyond recognition, but their extremities such as their hands and feet are fine. There are many theories to explain how & why this happens but no solid explanation. More Information
  2. ACID RAIN: any form of precipitation with high levels of nitric and sulfuric acids.They can make water toxic to the fishes inhabiting rivers, lakes & streams. It also damages forests by robbing the soil of essential nutrients and releasing aluminum into the soil. The aluminum makes it harder for the trees to take up water. More Information
  3. ALL ABOUT DEATH: Have you ever wondered what happens to the human body at the moment of death and when happens to it as time passes by? Well I made this post, a while ago that will answer all your questions. About Death Post
  4. BRAIN INJURY: The saddest part about this is when you have a patient whose aware but can’t communicate it at all. Or when you have patient in vegetative state, where they will smile, cry or frown but it turns out it was just an involuntary spinal cord effect. They are not really there. Brain Injury Post
  5. SLEEP PARALYSIS: Waking up but you can’ move your body at all. You think you see something hovering above you. Or there’s an old women with lifeless eyes at the foot of your bed. But you can’t move your body at all. A bit more terrifying than morbid but here is where you can read a scientific explanation for it. Science Explanation
  6. GENIE: THE WILD CHILD: Genie was a feral child, a child of abuse who was deprived of human communication. As horrible as it was, it led scientists to develop a theory about the critical period for language acquisition. It’s a hypothesis that states that the first few years of life is when a person will readily learn communication & language. More Information
  7. LA BREA TAR PITS: The pits in the tar is called asphalt. It’s incredibly sticky and results when lighter components of petroleum evaporate away. It has the power to trap large animals. What happens is prey, weakened or injured animals would get stuck in the pit. Bigger animals, such as predators would be drawn to the scene where they would stuck as well. More Information
  8. DEATH AT MOUNT EVEREST: Over 200 people have died on their attempt to reach the top. They could suffer from lack of oxygen or even me smashed by raining boulders. The morbid part? The bodies are now used as landmarks. More Information
  9. ELEPHANT’S FOOT: Elephant’s foot is a massive radioactive blob. One of the remainders of the Chernobyl disaster. After just 30 seconds of exposure, dizziness and fatigue will find you a week later. Two minutes of exposure and your cells will begin to hemorrhage (ruptured blood vessels); four minutes: vomiting, diarrhea, and fever. 300 seconds and you have two days to live. More Information
  10. MUMMIFICATION: Have you ever wondered how Ancient Egyptians mummified a body? It includes two steps: embalming & wrapping. Here is a website that will take you through the steps. And yes! They did use a hook to smash the brain and pull it out of the nose. The Website

You may also like: MASTERPOST OF TRUE TERRIFYING EVENTS

I watched him walk away and I had to question what held me. It was his eyes. That man had the most beautiful eyes. Prismatic and intense and I had to catch my breath. The tiny voice in my head whispered a thousand heart flutters and dreams of a future with matching china and warm beds. I had to inhale sharply as my eyes became slits with clenched fists in their peripheral as the rest of the voices in my head screamed, “That asshole needs to die and I need to be the one to kill him.”

OMG I CANT believe I FOUND YOUR TUMBLR MISS!! I'm going to tell everyone 😂
Anonymous

Cool story bro. Get off Tumblr and do your homework.

(I like that my name is Miss now, clever avoidance strategy. )

The things we assume.
So I am getting my first tattoo on Tuesday. I am really nervous and excited as the thing I am getting is really significant to me. However, I was more nervous about telling my parents I was getting it. I am 29 years old. Understand, I was raised in a household where tattoos were a sin and wrong and my mother literally told me when I was a teenager. "If you get a tattoo we will disown you." This later was annexed with the statement, "Not while you're under our roof," and a long argument about the Bible's stance on it (which I won via my own red tent stance). So it has been several years since I moved out of their house and I just recently set the appointment. I had told them for months that I wanted to get it in celebration of completing my Master's Degree, but they just dismissed it. I became incredibly excited as I set the date until I remembered that I should tell my parents because if I waited until it was done they would see it as a betrayal. I was terrified about their reaction to the point I felt sick to my stomach. So I waited until my mom had a few drinks and the conversation went as follows...
Me: I just won't be able to stop by on Tuesday.
Mom: I thought you were off work though?
Me: I have an appointment. I'm...getting my tattoo done.
Mom: (after a moment) Oh...really?
Me: Yes...I'm a little nervous about it and I know it's going to hurt but uh- I'm really excited about it.
Mom: It's what you were planning on right?
Me: Yes.
Mom: All right. You know...I've been thinking about getting one.
Me: Are you serious?
Mom: Why?
Me: You realize you threatened to disown me right? If I got a tattoo?
Mom: I didn't say that.
Me: You know me and conversations. Trust me, that's what you said.
Mom: I might have said it but it was your father's opinion. You've seen my side of the family. My father was in the Navy and my Mom co-owned a bar. Everyone has tattoos. A part of me...a part of me has always wanted one, but Dad doesn't like them. I was thinking something small. Oh hey, do you need somebody to be there?
Me: Kelsey (my best friend) is going. I love you Mom, but I don't want someone who has never supported this choice to be my support for this choice...ya' know?
Mom: I suppose that's fair. For what it's worth, I'm sorry. So long as I get to see pictures of the process.
Me: Done.
So one down and one to go. So as I am hanging out with both of them today and we were sharing a pint ( I see a theme here...) and Mom was showing me a few pictures of the one she wanted to get.
Dad: Whatcha lookin' at hun'?
Mom: (glancing at me) I was just showing Alicia pictures...of a tattoo I'd like to get.
Dad: Huh. (Takes a sip) Yeah?
Mom: Yeah. (nervously joking) What do you say, do you want to get matching tattoos with me?
Dad: Ha! No. You can get a tattoo if you want, but I won't- nope. It looks very pretty though.
(Both of us look over at him with surprised faces.)
Mom: Yeah, you know (she looks at me and I scrunch my face and shake my head) she's getting hers next week.
Dad: Her what?
Me: My uh- my tattoo.
Dad: Really? So...what's it going to be of?
Me: The White Tree of Gondor and a French phrase.
Dad: You big geek.
Me: Oh come on Dad, I'm not a gee-
Dad: Right, you're a huge nerd. I'm a geek. See, I remembered. So, will you- will you-
Me: It will be between my shoulder blades so if I don't want you to see it, you won't.
Dad: (smiles) You've thought about this.
Me: For years.
Dad: (takes a sip) Nerd.
That was it. My huge freakout was...for nothing. I assumed they'd freak out. I assumed they'd be angry. I assumed everything that they thought and believed when I was a teenager was still prevalent now. Mom assumed Dad hated tattoos outright and despite her desire to get one, refrained because of that assumption. Strange how we can be so shaped by the things we assume.
In other news, I am really excited and I hope to be able to show you guys some pictures of the process if you're interested.